12 keys to Building Unshakable Confidence: A Guide to Becoming a Confident Woman

Sis, we need to talk. You’ve been sleeping on yourself for way too long. You keep doubting yourself, not showing up for yourself, and keeping the promises you’ve made to yourself. This needs to end now. In the post, we’ll discuss the keys to building unshakable confidence.

What Does Confidence Mean?

Many people think confidence is a feeling. However, Confidence is believing in oneself and abilities. It is the encouragement to try.

Why Having Confidence Matters?

• Essential for Personal Growth: When you’re confident you’re more likely to grow because you aren’t afraid of stepping out of your comfort zone.

• More Resilient: You can face challenges and setbacks.

• Don’t Tolerate Mistreatment: When you’re confident it encourage you to make boundaries.

• Won’t Settle: You know what you want and won’t settle for less.

• Become More Successful: When you’re confident you take more risks which lead to success.

The 12 Keys To Building Unshakable Confidence

1. Set and Accomplish Tiny Goals Each Day

Every time you achieve your goals it sends a message to your brain that says, ‘I trust myself, I am capable’. Creating and achieving small goals each day not only builds your confidence but also is a way of showing up for yourself.

Hence, you begin to believe in yourself more every time you do what you achieve your goals.

2. Be Around Confident People

Confidence is contagious. Therefore, if you want to develop self-image, start being around confident people.

These people will inspire you to be more confident.

On the other hand, avoid being around people who lack confidence. They will cause you to do the same.

3. Your Physical Appearance Matters So Take Care of It

Get your nails and hair done, and a facial. Have a beauty maintenance routine. By putting effort into looking polished, it boosts your confidence.

Also, people’s first impression of you is based on your appearance. You represent yourself based on how you look and carry yourself.

4. Be Silent

Becoming a confident woman means being quiet and letting your confident aura do all the talking for you.

When someone is grounded in themselves they don’t have to go around bragging or proving themselves to others. True confidence is quiet. Notice that people who lack confidence in themselves often have to be the loudest so they can disguise themselves.

Your confidence will speak for itself.

5. Master Body Language

Your body language says a lot about you. When you walk with your head down and slouched it shows that you lack confidence. But when you walk with your head up, chest out, and look people in the eye when you talk to them you show that you have unshakable confidence.

Your body posture can make or break your confidence.

6. Create Boundaries

When you develop self-image you start to create boundaries, not letting anyone overstep you.

But if you lack confidence it leaves you open for people to take advantage of you.

Creating boundaries shows people that you respect yourself and you deserve respect from them.

7. Take Yourself Seriously

Stop breaking the promises you’ve made to yourself, you’re losing confidence every time you do that. Keep the promises you’ve made to yourself, accomplish the goals you’ve set for yourself, and show up for yourself.

Becoming a confident woman requires you to take yourself seriously.

8. Be Selfish

Be selfish with your time, presence, space, and self. Learn how to put yourself first because no one else will. The truth is you only can count on yourself, so be selfish with yourself.

9. Know Who You Are

When you know yourself you build unshakable confidence. No one can break your confidence or tell you who you are.

Therefore, don’t let others tell you who you are.

To know who you are, spend time with yourself. Also, journal your emotions and experiences. Get to know what you like and how you want to be treated.

10. Validate Yourself

Seeking external validation is exhausting and shows that you lack confidence in yourself. Stop craving to be appraised by others and get their approval.

Instead, seek validation from within. Praise and celebrate yourself.

11. Be Willing to Look Stupid

To build unshakable confidence sometimes means you have to look stupid fail, step out of your comfort zone, or try something new. Allow yourself to be a beginner or fail at something it’ll build your confidence over time.

12. Positive Self-talk

Would you talk to a friend the way you’ve been talking to yourself? Would you tell a loved one that they are stupid when they make a mistake? No right. So why do you constantly talk negatively to yourself?

Talking to yourself kindly can give you the motivation you need to build confidence. So, the next time you’ve made a mistake instead of beating yourself up, say, I’m learning from my mistakes.’

Wrapping Things Up

If you haven’t been as confident, I hope this post has made you build unshakable confidence. Remember you are amazing and deserve to be the most confident version of yourself.