The Actionable 11 Steps Plan to Get Your Life Together

Do you feel like your life is chaotic? Do you feel like you’re behind in life because you seem like you just can’t get it together? Sis, we’ve all been here before, when our lives just seem like a hot mess. Maybe it’s time for a reset. Maybe it’s time to get your life back together. Let’s discover in 11 easy, actionable steps how you can get your life together.

The Actionable 11 Steps to Get Your Life Together
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Step One: Stop Glamorizing Chaos

Girl, stop being a chaotic queen. If you’re the girl who’s always late, last-minute, or “thrives under pressure”, no wonder your life isn’t together because you glamorize this chaos in your life.

Being chaotic might seem harmless, but your chaos is what’s stopping you from having your life together.

Moreover, chaos is expensive. It costs you your peace, time, and opportunities.

So, from here on, stop glorifying chaos and making excuses like ‘that just who I am.’ No, that’s not who you are because you’re better than that.

To stop glamorizing and romanticizing chaos in your life, you must change your identity. Stop seeing yourself as someone who’s chaotic to someone who is peaceful.

Stop identifying yourself with someone who is ‘a last-minute person’ and start viewing yourself as someone who prepares ahead of time. Stop identifying yourself as someone who is disorganized and start seeing yourself as one who’s organized.

In his book Atomic Habits, James Clear explains that a behavior is more likely to stick when we shift our identity.

Therefore, to get your life together, you must shift your identity from a chaotic queen to a peaceful queen.

Step Two: Visualize What Having Your Life Together Looks Like to You

If you want to have your life together, you must first know what it looks like for you. Just saying you want your life together is too vague. And when something is too vague, our brains avoid it because we don’t know how to act upon it.

A study on goal-setting theory conducted by Locke and Latham reports that for our goals to be achievable, they must be clear and specific.

Hence, define what your life looks like when it’s put together.

You can define having your life together by writing a vision statement for each area of your life. Ask yourself, “What stability in this area of my life looks like?” For example, in self-care, for you it might mean having one self-care night out of the week and having rest days.

Remember, be specific, realistic, and clear about what you want.

Step Three: To Put Your Life Together, Start with Your Environment

Our environment can have a huge impact on our lives and might be the reason our lives aren’t together.

A study carried out by UCLA reported that women who are in a disorganized environment have higher cortisol level (stress hormone) throughout the day.

Hence, our environment can affect our mental well-being, which affects our lives.

If you want to get your life together, start by keeping your environment together.

After you’ve finished using your desk, tidy it up, make your bed, and clear your nightstand in the morning.

Anywhere that feels cluttered in your environment, start tidying it up.

A clean environment helps you to think clearly and rationally.

Step Four: Fix Your Sleeping Schedule First, Before You Fix Your Personality

Having your bedtime down pack is more cruel than your personality. In fact, your personality can be affected by your sleeping habits.

When you are sleep deprived, you are more likely to feel stressed, chaotic, and have less cognitive performance.

A study done by Harvard Medical School states that insufficient sleep can cause irritability, poor decisions, and anxiety.

Moreover, a lack of sleep can make you less productive and more procrastinator. You will lack the willpower to get things done, and your brain will crave quick dopamine, such as scrolling through social media.

So you see, it is essential for you to fix your sleeping schedule first because your personality might just depend on it.

Hence, getting your sleeping schedule in order is crucial to getting your life together.

Step Five: Stop Trying to Put Your Life Together in a Week

Sorry to break it to you, hun, but your life isn’t going to change in a week. By Thursday, you’re going to get overwhelmed and abandon the mission to have your life together. It doesn’t work that way because change takes its own time.

You don’t need to change your life in one week; all you need to do is start with one consistent change at a time. One change done consistently can make all the difference.

So, instead of trying to save fifty dollars a day, start with five. Instead of exercising thirty minutes a day, start with ten.

Focus on being consistent and not trying to make drastic changes in your life. Moreover, consistency in making small changes is what is going to help you bring your life together.

Step Six: Create A Bare-Minimum System for Your Down Days

On this journey of having your life together, there will be down days. Hence, having a bare-minimum system in place to help you win on your down days is crucial. It is designed to help you show up by doing the bare minimum to get things done.

Moreover, having a bare-minimum system helps you take the little action needed, which precedes motivation.

To create your bare minimum system, decide on which three daily baseline activities will make your day achievable. Your baseline can be making your bed, dressing for the day, and completing your high-priority tasks on your to-do list.

Having a bare-minimum system makes your life seem put together even on your rough days.

Step Seven: Be Cautious of Your Surroundings

Your surroundings can be the culprit for not having your life together. Everything from your social media accounts, family, and friends all play a role in having a put-together life.

In fact, Harvard researchers Christakis and Fowler reported that our behaviors are influenced by our surroundings. In other words, our behavior, emotional patterns, chaos, and lack of personal growth can come from the people we are around the most.

Therefore, be more cautious of your environment. This doesn’t mean you have to cut off people but be conscious of the influence they have on you.

Surround yourself with those who inspire and encourage you to grow and be productive. Follow people on social media who encourage you to get your life together.

Step Eight: Become Financially Aware

Having money issues can be one of the common denominators of stress. The American Psychological Association reported that money stress is one of the biggest impacts on mental health.

So, the next time you avoid looking at your bank account, remember that it’s only causing you to be more stressed.

Becoming more aware of your finances will make your life more together.

You can become financially aware by writing down your monthly income, listing your fixed expenses, and then tracking your spending habits for a month.

Moreover, having control of your finances reduces fear and stress.

However, remember that to be financially stable doesn’t mean you have to be rich, but to be in control of your money.

Step Nine: Stop Measuring Your Timeline To Someone Else’s

Comparing ourselves to others is one of the most common reasons why we feel our lives aren’t together and behind in life.

Just because someone has their life together doesn’t mean you will never have yours together.

Instead, allow yourself to bloom in your own timing. Focus on the road you’re on and no one else.

Everyone has a different timeline. We are all on our own unique journeys. This is one of the beauties of life, we are all running our own race and don’t have to compare or compete with anyone.

Having your life together means focusing on your own timeline.

Step Ten: Master Positive Self-Talk

The most important environment is your mental environment, so keep it positive and peaceful. Be mindful of how you speak to yourself.

Our lives are a reflection of our thinking patterns. Therefore, to get your life together, heal your self-talk.

Research conducted by Dr. Kristin Neff found that self-compassion and self-kindness are the common factors to motivation and resilience.

If your inner dialogue is a mess, your life will be a mess.

Hence, change the way you speak to yourself and watch your life come together.

Step 11: Build a 90-Day Reset Plan

For the next 90 days, focus on three areas of your life that you feel will make your life more put together. These areas can be finance, social life, fitness, etc.

Create a consistent weekly plan that helps you stay on track with these areas. Also, track your progress weekly and make adjustments if needed.

A good book that I recommend you read to help you create your 90-day self-reinvention plan is The 12 Week Year by Brian P. Moran and Michael Lennington. Although it’s a book for business, the execution strategy in the book can also be used in your personal life.

Remember, your life changes one day, week, and month at a time.

Summing Things Up

Don’t read this blog post and just go about your busy day. You’ve clicked on this post for a reason. In fact, if you’ve made it this far, let me know that you feel like your life isn’t in order. So, try these 11 simple and doable steps and watch your life come together.

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